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Nếu bạn sinh ra bên ngoài Hoa Kỳ và cha của bạn là một Lính Mỹ, chúng tôi có thể giúp bạn làm xét nghiệm DNA.

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Sau khi có kết quả, chúng tôi sẽ xem xét các kết quả trùng khớp về ADN của bạn và xác định xem liệu có trùng khớp nào đủ gần để xây dựng cây phả hệ hay không để giúp chúng tôi xác định cha của bạn là ai. Đôi khi phải mất vài ngày, đôi khi vài tuần hoặc vài tháng. Nếu bạn không có kết quả trùng khớp nào, có thể sẽ mất nhiều năm cho đến khi ai đó gần gũi hơn làm xét nghiệm DNA của họ và khớp với bạn.

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Nhận xét nghiệm DNA từ Ancestry, 23andMe, FTDNA theo thứ tự đó.

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Nếu bạn đã có người khác giúp bạn với tư cách là nhà nghiên cứu, vui lòng liên hệ với họ về trường hợp của bạn. Chúng tôi sẽ không giải quyết bất kỳ trường hợp nào người khác làm việc mà không có sự cho phép của họ. Họ có thể liên hệ với chúng tôi tại contactwarbabies@gmail.com

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If you were born outside of the United States and your father was an American Soldier, we can help you with DNA testing.

It is not a quick process unless you have very close DNA matches. Testing will take a minimum of 2 months per kit. Each kit is around $100 unless it is on sale.

Once results are back, we look at your DNA matches and determine if any are close enough to build a family tree to help us determine who your father is.  Sometimes it takes days, sometimes weeks or months.  If you have no close matches, it could take years until someone closer does their DNA test and matches with you.

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Get DNA tests from Ancestry, 23andMe, FTDNA in that order.

We need the following information from you.

• Original birth name (if known)
• American name
• Birthdate (if known)
• Location of birth (if known or approximate area)
• When did you come to the US? Through government?
• What state do you currently live in?
• Your phone number and email address
• Mother’s name or nickname (if known)
• Any information about father (if known) including race, approximate age when he was with your mother
• Any nicknames or names of father (if known)
• Was father with Army, Navy, Air Force or Marine
• Any stories of mother and father (if known)
• If you have any photos of your or your mother from when you were younger, please provide them to us.
• Send a current photo of you, make sure it is of your face and is clear and with a smile.

If you have had someone else helping you who is a researcher, please follow up with them on your case. We will not work on any cases that someone else was working on without their permission. They can contact us at contactwarbabies@gmail.com.

If we are working on your case and you wish to have someone else help you, it is ok, please just let us know so we can focus on other people to help.

If you cannot read or speak English, please have someone who can communicate with us available once we start working on your case.

We do not charge a fee to anyone, but we will accept donations.

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Help! Someone contacted me saying we are related and they are Amerasian!

So you’ve recently been contacted from someone saying they are a cousin, sibling, or child of a US military veteran. What do you do? What do you think? How do you respond?

First of all, don’t panic like I did. This isn’t the end of the world as you know it. Chances are that you or someone in your known family has done a DNA test and it matched with the Amerasian person. If a search angel is involved, like Warbabies, we have done extensive analyzing and researching of your family tree and have deducted or concluded, WITH GENETIC DNA SCIENCE, that they are related to you. Or we are simply just looking for information to fill in any gaps or to rule other connections out.

When I got the message from my Ancestry account that I matched with my half brother that I never knew about, I panicked. Why? Because our father passed away just 10 months prior and my initial thought was it had to be a scam, some weird way for someone to collect money. You all know about those emails from Nigeria, or the daughter of an Arabian princess who needs to send you 3.5 million dollars, right?  Those are obviously scams.

However, when I saw the match on AncestryDNA, something inside of me felt like I needed more info. I immediately reached out to my younger brother who also took a DNA test previously and matched with this new person. He saw the same match, and being as he lives in Washington DC and has acquaintances in the government, he reached out to them to find out if this could possibly be a scam. They came back with, “No known scam exists. This is real! DNA doesn’t lie.”

So what now??

We answered! We talked, shared info, asked questions, sent photos, and listened. It was completely awkward at first because we didn’t know what to think, what to say, what to believe. There was a language barrier also, since I was not used to hearing people speak with broken English. I had to be patient and ask to have them repeat themselves. It’s a challenge, but eventually I started to understand better and am even learning some words in another language and learning more about a foreign culture.

It really didn’t take long to accept that we had a new older brother! (I was no longer the oldest sibling lol) And the only thing I regret is not matching with him sooner while our dad was still alive.

Personally, I had no idea that the term Amerasian existed. I had no idea that there were literally hundreds of thousands of Amerasians in the world and that roughly 400 are still in Vietnam and well over a thousand in the Philippenes still looking for their father and American families. I had to do some research to find out more! Just one Google search for “Amerasian” produces countless articles, videos, groups, books, interviews and photos of American Military Veterans looking for their children that’s left behind, most never knowing they even existed, but most Vets were in legitimate relationships with Vietnamese women, some even marrying them!

What should I do?

You have several choices, both good and bad. We don’t recommend ignoring anyone who contacts you. That’s completely rude, at least respond to hear them out. Many Amerasians are desperately looking for their fathers and family, they feel very similar to someone who was an adoptee, they just want to know their families and be accepted. They want health history for themselves and their own children. They want photos to compare what they look like and if they look like someone else who is biologically connected to them.

In the case of Amerasians who are still living in the country where they were born (Korea, Philippines, Vietnam, Germany, Guam), the US government created the Amerasian Homecoming Act, which allows children of US Soldiers who were stationed in these countries to be considered to have US citizenship. Read this again, these Amerasian ARE rightfully allowed to be a US citizen, if they follow the steps and submit their forms and DNA results to prove they are half-American. Most DNA kits are already paid for from either the Amerasian themselves or kind-hearted individuals who donate for these tests. If you are open to accepting their connection to you, they may wish to have help coming to the US. Not necessarily financial help, but documentation as proof you are related. Keep in mind, the majority of Amerasians are already in the US and have already become US Citizens.

The good and kind thing to do is be open about the possibility of discovering you have this wonderful gift of a new relative! They have amazing stories to tell and so much love to give. Please help them, and yourself, have closure and peace. It is the right and moral thing to do!

But am I opening a bad can of worms? What if my family gets angry or upset? 

There is the possibility of some family members being angry or upset. But those feelings come from fear, shame, confusion, embarrassment or guilt. Older generations often don’t want to go back in time to relive the horror of war. It’s forcing them to remember the worst part of their life. Every dark cloud has a silver lining, and usually from tragedy comes a lesson. After a storm, look for a rainbow. It doesn’t have to be a negative experience, reconnecting with a long lost or unknown family member can be a positive experience! You can be the missing link that gives another human being the peace and closure they DESERVE!

I’m very angry or upset to be contacted. I don’t want anything to do with this and wish it would go away! 

Yes, I have been told this before.  It’s terribly sad and frustrating to hear, but we must honor your decision.  If you have been contacted by an individual claiming to be your long-lost Amerasian relative and you have no interest or desire to know them, please just state so in a compassionate and polite way. In the event that you tell us at Warbabies that you no longer wish to be contacted again, we will respect your decision. We have already prepared a report to give to our client which may include your contact info and any photos we have found on the internet. All info we find is freely available on the internet through Public Domain. We are NOT to be held responsible for what ever the client does with this information. You have every right to refuse and reject any contact.  However, understand that others in your family may not feel the same as you. Please respect their wishes if they want to communicate with their Amerasian relative.

I’m nervous, who can I privately talk to about this?

Call, text or write me!! I’ve been there! And now I have an absolutely wonderful brother, 2 fabulous nieces, 2 very cool nephews and a beautiful sister-in-law that I love and adore! We never share information with anyone without permission. If you are just curious to know, I can be a comforting liaison between you and the Amerasian individual. I am a former search angel to has helped reunite Adoptees with their birth families for over 20 years, and now my focus is to help reconnect US military veterans with the children they left behind. I have the knowledge, tools and experience to help. And I do it out of the kindness of my heart and never charge a fee! This has been my life’s mission to help others and God has blessed me with this ability. I fully intend to use this blessing to help others.

Please help me spread the word, DNA is the link, and knowledge is vital for this generation of brothers and sisters left behind. Veterans often speak of never leaving a fallen soldier behind, their children shouldn’t be ignored or left behind either. Share this post so that we can bring awareness to this very incredible issue.

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Sharing your Ancestry DNA and Tree

If you have built a family tree and have a DNA kit with Ancestry.com, we will need access to this information to help work your case. There are a couple different ways to do this.

• Preferred method – Provide in an email your account login information. Don’t worry, at any time you can change the password and we will no longer have access. If you choose this option, please send your Ancestry account email and password to Contactwarbabies@gmail.com only.
• Invite us to the family tree you have built. In order to do this, you must go to your Family Tree settings, at the top you will see Sharing, select that link. In the upper right, you will see +Invite People, click that button and you can either select Username or Shareable Link. Enter either Rootseeker74 for Username, or click the Shareable link. You will need to email me the link to Contactswarbabies@gmail.com only. Make sure you have selected for the Role to be Editor. This is critical to be able to view all of your information.
• For DNA kits, go to your DNA Results page and click on Settings. Scroll down to DNA Ethnicity and Matches Access. Click Add a Person and type in Rootseeker74. Important, where it says Viewer, click and select Manager. This is critical to be able to use all of the tools that Ancestry offers.

For any other DNA testing company, you will need to email us your login info, as they do not provide a way to share your results outside of your matches like Ancestry does.

Note: At any time you are able to remove access by any of these methods above. You can change your password or simply return to the Tree or DNA area and remove access to us. This is 100% completely your choice. Please understand that in order for us to assist you, we will need this access.

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Help! I think I found my American Father/Family!

So you have submitted your DNA test, found several close matches and tracked down either your father or his family members. Congratulations!!!

Now here comes the hard part. Reunification.

In my experience with both the adoptee community and the Amerasian community, this step is always the hardest part. It stems from a primal fear of rejection, and this is a completely normal feeling, and justified. You were abandoned or had some circumstance that separated you from your family.

The most common questions you have are:

• Did you know about me?
• Did you think about me?
• What do you remember about my mother?
• If you knew about me, why did you leave me?

These are tough questions, and something that should be reserved after initial introductions. Although they are completely valid, you must proceed with caution and sensitivity. I can tell you what your father or family are thinking if they did not know about your existence.

• Is this a joke?
• Is this some sort of scam?
• How do I know this is real?
• How did they find me?
• What do they want from me?
• Do they just want money?

These are the most common initial feelings from a father or family member who just learned they had a stranger find them claiming to be related.

In all of the cases that I have worked on for other Amerasians, we have had one 1 successful reunion. This saddens me because these families don’t know what they are missing!!

The reality of this is there is a high chance that if you are Amerasian, your American family will reject you, or seem curious initially, but never come to fully accept you in their lives. This is the shameful outcome of most Amerasians, but not all. Until you actually approach your found family, you will never know the outcome. Please don’t ever give up hope, there have been many wonderful and loving reunions. Check out our Videos Page for all these success stories to inspire you and give you hope!

I had my own feelings of this when my brother Dung reached out to me the first time. I hate to admit that, but it is true, and my fear was validated after contacting my younger brother who received the same message on Ancestry. We needed some time to process this news and ask around to see how legit these claims were. After all, how could our father have known and never done anything about it? Why had he never mentioned this possibility? Did he even know?

Once we took a look at the situation together, we realized it was very real. We had a brother who no one knew about!! While my younger brother proceeded with much caution, I dove in head first into a relationship with my new brother. I instantly loved him and his entire family. The rest of our father’s family were told much later about him, and sadly, they were not as responsive. This hurts my heart straight to my soul, but I cannot make my family accept our brother. I just continue to pray they will come around.

My best advice to you, if you found your American family:

• If your English is not that good, find a friend who speaks very good English who can be an interpreter or liaison between you and your family. Or contact us, we can help with this also!
• Stick to the facts, share your name, where you are from, the year you were born, where you lived before coming to the US (unless you are still there).
• Make sure you have taken your DNA test and tell them exactly how you matched with their relatives and how you have determined your relationship to them.
• If you are unsure how you are related to them, state that you are just trying to find your father or any siblings or other relatives. Ask if they could help you figure out who your father is. Some times they will help out of curiosity, a challenge, and to feel good that they can help someone out.
• If the subject comes up, be clear of what you want from them. If you want to just know who they are, would like photos, medical history, or if you would like to get to know them and be acknowledged. The more straight you are with them, the quicker they can process and over come their initial shock and fear.

If you are unfortunately met with confusion and rejection, be polite and ask if they would be interested in taking a DNA test (unless they have already). The goal is to keep the communication lines open. Suggest that you can call back later or another day. You don’t want to hit them hard at this point, tread carefully! Try to give them your phone number or email address. This way they can contact you after they had some time and are comfortable talking more about this.

If some time has passed, try again. See if they would be willing to talk to you or a liaison or friend. If you need help in this situation, please reach out to us here at War Babies. We have been there, we know the strong emotions that go along with this process and can help.

The worst outcome is your father or his family rejects your existence and no longer wishes to communication at all with you. This is the hardest thing to accept, but just know this part isn’t about you at all!! If this happens, your father or his family simply lack the coping skills to deal with this type of situation. They have their own fears and may feel like too much time has passed to begin a new relationship. It may stir many feelings of shame, fear, embarrassment that they cannot deal with. In some cases, they were married before going to war and if their wife is still alive and with them, it could cause friction in their marriage, as the wife would be terribly upset at the infidelity.

No matter the outcome of reaching out to your father or family, just know that you are not alone and never give up hope that some day your American family will accept you. There are literally hundreds of thousands of people just like you and facing the same situation. War Babies will be here for you if you need them.